Wednesday, November 12, 2014

The Answer to an Unasked Question

Quick newsflash! I won the Dietbet Challenge to lose 4% of my body weight in 4 weeks. Yeah, Me!

Next, my curious mind is amazed that no one has ever asked me why my pictures always depict me as Mighty Mouse.

In answer to the unasked question, it doesn't. It is not meant to be me as I have never been 'mouse-like', that I can remember.

Mighty Mouse was my first crush.

There! You have it! You know my secret.

He was the muscle-bound mouse who flew through the air singing, "Here I come to save the daaaaay!". Tell me, what girl can resist that?

(Thinking about it now, my first live crush was a kid named Larry who stood on the sidewalk and waved to me from the front of our apartment building as we drove away, moving to a new home. I can still see his little close-shaven head. He'd never expressed his undying love for me out loud but I knew. I knew. Sniff.)

Back to Mighty Mouse.

I knew he wasn't real, he was a CARTOON, but it gave me a basis for what to want out of a man in my future. Not that I knew that then. I was only 5 or 6 years old. I believe it was subconsciously throughout my growing years and, yes, into adulthood.

I wanted to marry Mighty Mouse, someday, O.K.?! What's wrong with that?

Well, to start, I had many conflicting ideas from around me, society, family and friends who said, "Oh, you don't need a man for that! Be your own Hero! Be a strong independent woman!". And, I am, however, there was a nagging feeling that I wasn't being told the whole story.

There come times in everyone's life when they need a Hero. There are times when you are just tired and it's nice when someone meets you at the car and carries your bags in or takes the garbage out before you mention it. Wow. I seem to have set the bar really low here. I'm getting to my point, soon.

Eventually, I realized that Man is problem-solver.

If he can't solve it, he gets frustrated. Women are talkers who just want to have a man listen but he REALLY wants to solve the problem for her. He wants to be the Hero. He can't slay dragons or conquer new lands for her so what is he to do? Women have lost the ability or inclination to let him be a Hero. This has confused both men and women for decades, now.

It sounds really old-fashioned, I know. But, it used to work for a long time. See, in life we all have our strengths and weaknesses. If we pay attention, we'll recognize them and build upon them in ourselves. If we are good observers, we'll recognize them in others. We'll respect them in ourselves and others. We'll accept them in ourselves and others. Then, we'll live in peace with ourselves and others.

There. Short and sweet. Have a blessed rest of the month and a Happy Thanksgiving to readers in the States!

"The best thing to hold onto in life is each other." - Audrey Hepburn