Yeah, I'm talkin' to you, New Year and to anyone else listening! It's a lengthy one but, I believe, worth the glance.
There are a few things I've figured out in my, ahem, years on this planet. A few, I've made sure my daughter knew from the time she could understand what I was saying. A few I've learned through my own grown-up years.
I'd like to save some young people some time and effort. I'd like for them to have some information before they hit the streets of this big amazing and sometimes, bad world.
I'd like to help whoever didn't find out some of this from their own parents or guardians.
It's not rocket surgery. It's life experiences, common sense, and observation.
If it helps someone throughout this New Year, then I've served a little purpose.
Bonus: Bubz has vlog that covers a bit of this at http://youtu.be/ncjC_5Rx4_0.
The first thing my kid could understand that I told her was to "Consider the consequences of everything you do" and "Walk like you're going somewhere". From that time came the others:
Pick your battles, carefully.
Don't live life according to a t.v. show or movie or celebrity. Life is real. Those are not.
Have a belief in something bigger than you to keep your feet on the ground and your perspective clear of who you are.
That being said, know your worth.
Always remember that you are loved.
Money is a tool. It's not the ultimate goal.
It's possible to forgive and remember. However, forgetting is a true expression of love.
It doesn't matter if you flip burgers for a living, as long as you are content, respected, healthy, and can provide for yourself and a family. There is dignity in ALL work.
A spotless clean house means nothing if it isn't comfortable to you and those who visit.
Lying is for toddlers, not adults.
Live under your means for a good sleep at night.
Having a 'type' of mate you are seeking eliminates many people who could be your perfect mate.
Don't say anything out loud that you don't want heard....or repeated.
Just because others have it doesn't mean you need to or should. Your life is your own.
And with that...think before you speak.
And...if you don't have anything to say, don't speak just to fill the silence.
Speak when you have something to add to the conversation and hopefully, something nice.
With your dignity and self-respect in check, no one can bring you down.
Make-up is to enhance, if you feel the need. It's not for a whole new face. You are still YOU beneath it.
Acknowledge others everywhere you go, even if it's only with a smile.
A date is a date, not 'til death do we part. Keep it in perspective.
Forgiving is for you, for the most part.
Don't compare your life to anyone else's, especially a celebrity's.
A Timex and a Rolex both tell time.
People are harder to replace than stuff.
Feeling comfortable is more important than dressing to impress.
Feel genuine happiness when good things happen for others. Your turn is coming.
Keep relationships valued. We are all we have.
You can't be successful if you don't try.
Know what you fear and why. It may be one of the heavier bags you can drop.
Respect others and the laws where you live. Without them, all would be chaos.
Be the best "You" that you can be. There has been and will only be One You. Give the World a treat!
Remember how uniquely beautiful and special you are but that we are all here together and need each other.
A Mercedes Maybach and a Plymouth Neon can both get you from Point A to Point B.
Determine your priorities and never lose sight of them.
Know your limits, in spending, in drinking, in relationships.
From an old patient of mine married 56 years, "Love is just a matter of what you are willing to put up with".
Guilt and worry are energy sappers. Say you are sorry and accept you only have control up to certain point and move on.
People say when you are nervous to picture others in their underwear. I say seeing others as they used to be, especially when angry or nervous, as babies...little and innocent and harmless, brings a kindness, tenderness, and relaxed loving humor to you.
Speak clearly and firmly in encounters, not yelling and mean. People stop listening the higher the volume goes. They just can't hear you.
Sometimes you have to go backwards to head forward. Be humble and do it. Think of it as a running start.
Never be so proud that you can't apologize.
Watch for those that seek to Divide and Conquer.
Learn to let things go. It's exhausting holding onto regrets and grudges. You can't change it, anyway.
Respect the elderly. They've lived longer and, most, know more than you do. Good resource!
And, from my great-grandmother, You don't live in your car.
You can do anything as long as you know for how long you have to do it. So, plan well but stay flexible.
Live and walk with a purpose. Stay focused and aware of your surroundings for safety AND for opportunities.
That's my two-cents worth. Hope something clicked with the reader of this post that hadn't occurred to them before. I tried not to be too cliché.
Wishing everyone a Happy New Year with tons of blessings!!
There are a few things I've figured out in my, ahem, years on this planet. A few, I've made sure my daughter knew from the time she could understand what I was saying. A few I've learned through my own grown-up years.
I'd like to save some young people some time and effort. I'd like for them to have some information before they hit the streets of this big amazing and sometimes, bad world.
I'd like to help whoever didn't find out some of this from their own parents or guardians.
It's not rocket surgery. It's life experiences, common sense, and observation.
If it helps someone throughout this New Year, then I've served a little purpose.
Bonus: Bubz has vlog that covers a bit of this at http://youtu.be/ncjC_5Rx4_0.
The first thing my kid could understand that I told her was to "Consider the consequences of everything you do" and "Walk like you're going somewhere". From that time came the others:
Pick your battles, carefully.
Don't live life according to a t.v. show or movie or celebrity. Life is real. Those are not.
Have a belief in something bigger than you to keep your feet on the ground and your perspective clear of who you are.
That being said, know your worth.
Always remember that you are loved.
Money is a tool. It's not the ultimate goal.
It's possible to forgive and remember. However, forgetting is a true expression of love.
It doesn't matter if you flip burgers for a living, as long as you are content, respected, healthy, and can provide for yourself and a family. There is dignity in ALL work.
A spotless clean house means nothing if it isn't comfortable to you and those who visit.
Lying is for toddlers, not adults.
Live under your means for a good sleep at night.
Having a 'type' of mate you are seeking eliminates many people who could be your perfect mate.
Don't say anything out loud that you don't want heard....or repeated.
Just because others have it doesn't mean you need to or should. Your life is your own.
And with that...think before you speak.
And...if you don't have anything to say, don't speak just to fill the silence.
Speak when you have something to add to the conversation and hopefully, something nice.
With your dignity and self-respect in check, no one can bring you down.
Make-up is to enhance, if you feel the need. It's not for a whole new face. You are still YOU beneath it.
Acknowledge others everywhere you go, even if it's only with a smile.
A date is a date, not 'til death do we part. Keep it in perspective.
Forgiving is for you, for the most part.
Don't compare your life to anyone else's, especially a celebrity's.
A Timex and a Rolex both tell time.
People are harder to replace than stuff.
Feeling comfortable is more important than dressing to impress.
Feel genuine happiness when good things happen for others. Your turn is coming.
Keep relationships valued. We are all we have.
You can't be successful if you don't try.
Know what you fear and why. It may be one of the heavier bags you can drop.
Respect others and the laws where you live. Without them, all would be chaos.
Be the best "You" that you can be. There has been and will only be One You. Give the World a treat!
Remember how uniquely beautiful and special you are but that we are all here together and need each other.
A Mercedes Maybach and a Plymouth Neon can both get you from Point A to Point B.
Determine your priorities and never lose sight of them.
Know your limits, in spending, in drinking, in relationships.
From an old patient of mine married 56 years, "Love is just a matter of what you are willing to put up with".
Guilt and worry are energy sappers. Say you are sorry and accept you only have control up to certain point and move on.
People say when you are nervous to picture others in their underwear. I say seeing others as they used to be, especially when angry or nervous, as babies...little and innocent and harmless, brings a kindness, tenderness, and relaxed loving humor to you.
Speak clearly and firmly in encounters, not yelling and mean. People stop listening the higher the volume goes. They just can't hear you.
Sometimes you have to go backwards to head forward. Be humble and do it. Think of it as a running start.
Never be so proud that you can't apologize.
Watch for those that seek to Divide and Conquer.
Learn to let things go. It's exhausting holding onto regrets and grudges. You can't change it, anyway.
Respect the elderly. They've lived longer and, most, know more than you do. Good resource!
And, from my great-grandmother, You don't live in your car.
You can do anything as long as you know for how long you have to do it. So, plan well but stay flexible.
Live and walk with a purpose. Stay focused and aware of your surroundings for safety AND for opportunities.
That's my two-cents worth. Hope something clicked with the reader of this post that hadn't occurred to them before. I tried not to be too cliché.
Wishing everyone a Happy New Year with tons of blessings!!
When ridiculed, we bless.
When persecuted, we endure.
When slandered, we respond gently.
1 Corinthians 4:12-13
Happy New Year to you.....I love this. It is a great reminder of things we should know and thinga we sometimes forget . You did a great job raising your daughter, she is grounded, successful and beautiful like her MOM
ReplyDeleteThank you, Brenda! And a Happy New Year full of blessings to you and yours!
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